Ok, I look like a guy. Now what?

I have facial hair and some muscles. I lost a lot of fat and curves. I look like a cis male mostly, but my experiences are different. Women are wary of me, even when I'm polite and helpful. I can't be playful with a stranger's kids at the checkout in a store. I mourn being considered "safe" or at least harmless. My gender change has gained me many privileges, but there are trade-offs.